Dealing with Pregnancy Loss. Miscarriage or pregnancy loss during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy is very difficult to deal with, especially if you were really happy and excited about being pregnant or if it was not the first pregnancy loss. Unfortunately, pregnancy loss before the 20th week of pregnancy is not uncommon and doctors most often do not know what causes it. You have not done anything wrong nor you could have done anything to prevent it. Pregnancy loss also does not mean that your future pregnancies will end with a miscarriage too because most women have a healthy, normal pregnancy after repeated miscarriages. But before you try to conceive again, you should deal with your emotions. It is completely normal to feel sad, shocked, confused or angry if you had a pregnancy loss but you should not feel guilty nor like failing. You will perhaps catch yourself thinking about the potential causes but it is important to be aware that it is no one’s fault. It is not your fault nor your partner’s. It was not caused by your diet nor the stress. Do not close yourself off and do not try to suppress your feelings. If you feel sad, allow yourself to be sad and cry if you feel like crying. Pretending that nothing happened will not help you get over this painful experience any easier nor faster. It is not easy to deal with pregnancy loss and it takes some time to heal your emotional wounds.
Women who had a pregnancy loss often feel that no one can understand how it is like. And people who have not experienced it themselves really do not. However, you will feel a lot better if you talk about your feeling honestly to someone you trust. Talk to your partner, parents, friends, health care provider or a complete stranger if you feel easier. Sometimes the necessary support and understanding comes from those you would expect the least. Keep in mind, however, that people who have not go through your experience may feel scared about saying something wrong and that sometimes they unwittingly do. Do not hold it against them and do not take it personally.
Although you may feel physically fine, it may be a good idea to take some time off work to be able to deal with your emotions and to comprehend what happened. It may be also worth to keep in mind that there are pregnancy loss support groups which may help you deal with your emotions. As already mentioned earlier, dealing with pregnancy loss requires some time. How long it will take to move on with your life is impossible to tell. You may feel down for days or even weeks. However, keep in mind that pregnancy loss is a stressful event which can lead to depression. If you have symptoms of depression that persist more than two weeks or if you are thinking about hurting yourself, call your doctor immediately because depression is an illness which requires medical treatment. Also, be sure to call your doctor immediately if developing fever, body aches, heavy blood loss, weakness or foul-smelling vaginal discharge because they may signal an infection.
If you are thinking about conceiving again, be sure to talk to your doctor first. It is recommendable to wait until having at least one normal menstrual period before trying to get pregnant again.