Single Mommy With a Baby
Being a single mommy with a baby is not easy. Taking care of the baby all by yourself and earning enough money to provide the financial security for all of you is a tough work. Babies need a huge amount of care and attention which can be physically and emotionally challenging even if you have all the love and support of your baby’s father. But if you are a single mommy with a baby, you are on your own for everything. However, you should not despair because there are many moms out there who have an identical situation to yours and are doing an extraordinary job.
It does not really matter if you are a single mommy with a baby by your own choice or because your baby’s father does not want to be involved in child raising. Ideally, every child should be raised by both the mother and father but you should not feel guilty if you are raising your baby alone for any kind of reason. It is not your fault if the father does not want to take up the responsibility and be a part of your baby’s life and much less if becoming a single mom was your own choice. With so many men refusing to take up the responsibility of fatherhood and marriages falling apart, no one has the right to judge you for anything especially if you have decided for artificial insemination because your biological clock was ticking. Many women are not lucky enough to find the right men in their best years and waiting too long can make childbirth complicated or even impossible.
If you are not a single mom by your own choice, you should not close the door too soon. You should of course move on with your life and create a warm, safe and loving home for your baby either by yourself or with another man. But if the biological father changes his mind about his non-involvement in your child’s life, you should not stop him. It may not be fair to you and your new partner who was not reluctant to take up the responsibility for your baby even if he is not the biological father. However, it is a lot better and healthier for your baby to grow up feeling loved by both the mother and the father even if they do not live together.
By not allowing your child to have contacts with his or her biological father, you can seriously affect the relationship with your child because he or she may get the wrong impression about the course of events. For that reason you are highly recommended to find a way to put the differences with your baby’s father aside and allow him to become a part of your baby’s life if he expresses the wish. But if the father does not want to accept his responsibility and cannot find even one hour a week to spend with his child, there is nothing you can do about it. But your child will know that and will not hold you responsible for anything. On the contrary, he or she will love and appreciate you even more for everything you have done for him or her
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