Fatherhood role has become a hot topic in the recent years. Most men want to have kids and some even dream about having a family, however, many do not consider fatherhood role as important as most women feel about motherhood. But then again, things have changed a lot in the recent decades and the number of men who are taking a more active role in child raising is rapidly rising. The main difference between men and women in child care and child raising is without a doubt partly related to biological factors. While women are “programmed” to be mothers some day, male role is sort of done after conception in the biological sense. The second reason for the obvious difference between fatherhood and motherhood lays in male and female historic roles. Whereas women stayed at home to look after kids, prepare food and take care of household chores, men went to work to provide financial security to the family.
However, these days are long gone as women have clearly proven that they can have a successful career as well and in some cases, bring home even more money than they male partners. Most men, on the other hand, cannot imagine their female partners to take care of financial security of the family alone and become stay-at-home-dads but most of them no longer consider diaper changing “unmanly”. On the contrary, they do not only enjoy but demand to have a say in child raising.
Becoming a father is a big thing and no man can hide the joy and pride when finally becoming a dad. Men may not show emotions as easily as women but they are just as impressed by that “little thing” they have created and fantasize about their child growing into a successful and happy person. Yes, men have feelings too and fatherhood love is just as unconditional as motherhood love. It always has been but it seems that men were kind of afraid or embarrassed to show it in the past, at least outside their homes.
But there is more in the rising importance of fatherhood role than men becoming more relaxed about publicly showing their affection to children and giving up those silly “manly” and “unmanly” perceptions about man’s role in child raising. Nowadays, most mothers can no longer afford to stay at home and dedicate themselves completely to child raising but have to share the financial responsibility with their male partners. As a result, it takes two for just about everything including child raising. The last but not the least important thing which has “forced” men to assume a more active role when it comes to children is the increased awareness that a child needs an unconditional love, support and affection from both their mother and father even if they do not live under the same roof. After all, there are things that children can learn only from their dads no matter if they are their biological fathers or not.
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