Bad Home Parenting
Bad home parenting is, unfortunately, a reality. Child raising is not an easy job as every action you make can have a dramatic impact on your child in both positive and negative sense. There is no single formula how to solve bad home parenting issues because each child is a unique person with a unique personality. It is crucial, however, to acknowledge the fact we all make mistakes and learn from your mistakes if you do not want your child to become regarded as an example of bad home parenting.
Raising unrealistic expectations about the child’s abilities is one of the biggest mistakes we all tend to make as parents. We would all love our children to be the smartest kids in the class and excel their peers in extracurricular activities. As a result, many parents feel sad or even disappointed when their child fails to outperform his or her peers academically or/and athletically. However, it is important to be aware that each child is different and reaches different milestones with his or her own pace. It is not unimportant how well your child performs in school but keep in mind that school performance does not necessarily mean anything when it comes to success of your child later in life. Just because your child outperforms his or her peers academically that does not necessarily mean that he or she will be equally successful in his or her professional life and much less that your child is doomed to a low paid job if he or she is failing to keep in step with the smartest kids in the class.
Tantrums pose another major challenge to parents but they often reflect our own actions and behavior at home. Children who witness arguments between the parents, outbursts of anger, swearing, door smashing, etc. are more likely to pick up this kind of behavior. For that reason it is highly important to avoid any kind of behavior and actions you do not want your child to display himself or herself. Also, be sure to learn to express you love to your child and say sorry when you are wrong. Children need to feel loved and they need to know that they can always rely on you. But they also need to know that their opinion matters. Children understand much more than they are often credited with. They are also relatively forgiving but it is highly important to acknowledge your faults and apologize when you are being a “bad parent”.
The last but not the least important is to acknowledge the fact that children are human beings too and that they have a right to have their own opinion about their clothing, hairstyle, room decoration, etc. Even more, they should be encouraged to make choices and decisions on their own whenever possible because handling them as “children” who are incapable to make rational decisions can cause them problems later in life.
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