For many families, they can easily break down. This is going to be something that not only affects the parents but children. No matter what their ages are, the children are always going to be the ones that are affected when two people fall out or break up entirely. However, supportive parenting, co parenting, can actually be a fantastic way to ensure the children are kept happy and safe.
However, it is the same for adopted children. Whether a couple is in a heterosexual relationship or in any other type of relationship, supportive co parenting is going to help with child adjustment. This is all about adopted children because many people believe since the child has came from a broken home or have been left without a home, people can at times, automatically assume the child is bad.
This isn’t everyone but many people believe this and even the child can believe this themselves. For many children who are in foster care and in fact are waiting to be adopted by a family, they can believe they are the ones who are bad. As a result, the children can act out. They can show aggression, and become badly behaved when they are adopted out to a family.
However, a recent study has shown that co parenting and supportive co parenting can actually change the way a child can behave in life. Of course, tasks such as childcare and playing with the children are very important, supportive co parenting can have a massive effect on a child and whether they have behavioral problems such as acting out.
The study looked at around 100 families that had adopted children. The families ranged from heterosexual couples to gay and lesbian couples; and all of the children had been adopted by the families when they are born or during the first few weeks of their lives also.
The study showed some interesting results however. Couples who were in same sex relationships did almost the same as heterosexual couples when it came to raising their children and taking responsibility in childcare. Sometimes, same sex relationships did better in one area than heterosexual couples and vice versa.
This study showed something– anyone can become good parent. The message in which this showed was every child, no matter where they’re placed with, they need the basic things in life. They need loving parents, support and happiness. Though, the study also showed that adopted children can still feel out of place at times with their families even though they have raised them and have been with them since the child was born.
Some children don’t find out they’re adopted but that’s up to the parents as to whether the child or children should be told. Many decide to tell their children that they are adopted but the real fact is, it doesn’t matter whether they have given birth to a child because if they raise them, take care of them and love them, they are a real parent.
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